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Hello and Welcome,

I am Maria, a qualified, registered and experienced down-to-earth counsellor.  I offer face to face counselling for people (18 years old and over) and couples in Enfield, EN2 next to Gordon Hill Station and in close proximity to Enfield Town, Potters Bar, Cuffley and surrounding areas.

It can bring about a huge sense of relief to be able to talk to someone who can really listen and understand the world from your perspective.

We all deserve to be heard and we could all benefit from having the time and space devoted to just that. A safe, neutral place where we know we can be ourselves, free from judgement.  The counselling hour is your time and the counselling room is your space  for that time.  The counselling relationship is like no other and serves as a bridge for people who wish to find some balance in their lives.  You may be struggling but you don’t have to cope alone

Who I work with

I have had specialist training in anxiety, bereavement and couples counselling, although my practice is by no means limited to these areas. I have helped clients through many “testing” times and helped them to overcome the uncertainties and challenges they were facing.  You may sense that life holds no meaning or that there is something missing?    Perhaps you are exhausted from trying to make sense of things?  During difficult times, it can feel as though the entire world has collapsed around you.  Counselling can help you put things in perspective and give voice to your pain and heartache.  I also work effectively with people who identify themselves as having problems relating to self-doubt, low self-esteem, obsessive thinking, panic attacks, perfectionism, procrastination, gender identity and who have trouble managing difficult feelings within themselves, such as anger, shame, guilt, etc.

My Approach

My counselling approach is humanistic and relational.  I respect and value each person as the unique individual they are.  I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and the client, as it is the relationship between us which provides the healing benefit.  Working with the ‘whole person’ and not the ‘label’ is my philosophy and this lies at the heart of my approach. 

Choosing the right Counsellor for you

From personal experience, I know that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ for you is crucial, but can be tricky.  In order to help you decide whether we could work together, do please feel free to give me a telephone call, text or email me so that I can answer any concerns or questions you may have. If you reach my voicemail, leave a short message or text me and I promise to return your call or text as soon as I can.  My contact details are below.

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

Background, Experience, Theory,

Background:-

I have been working therapeutically with adults (aged 18 – 80)  since 2007. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a natural curiosity about human nature.  Sometimes something happens which rocks your world, where you wonder about the lottery that is life and you ask the question “Why?”  Struggling to answer that question took me on my own counselling journey.  .

Experience:-

My first counselling post was as a voluntary counsellor for a bereavement charity where I had the privilege to work for six years, whilst building my private practice.  Loss comes in many different forms and each person’s way of experiencing and coping with bereavement is unique and significant to them. Coping with the pain of losing someone you love is one of life’s biggest challenges.

Before working as a counsellor I worked in the legal profession. The traits of perfectionism and pessimism are prevalent among solicitors and many who work in this field are prone to to anxiety, depression and stress, often through feeling under-valued and over-worked. The symptoms of  physical exhaustion, cynicism, detachment, feeling ineffective, insomnia, etc. eventually lead to what is often described as ’emotional burn-out’.

Having worked in both the corporate and public sectors, has given me valuable insight and understanding in working with the varied problems that all of us inevitably face in life.  My own life experience has also given me the self-awareness and wisdom to work competently with a diverse range of clients.

Counselling Style

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs.

Theory of Practice

Having a sound theory provides the framework for effective counselling. The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship.

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential. If I want to be that self, that I truly am, then I have to be it on all five of these levels”

Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, un-ravelling process and yet it can be life-changing.  Why not give it a try?

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

Couples Counselling

Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a cycle of blame, criticism and distancing. 

When couples argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, loading the dishwater, etc, the root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting or not feeling safe and secure with the other partner. Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress, pain and sadness. You may also become anxious, angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners which ends up causing a lot of pain, injury and despair.

The main aim of couples counselling with me is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart,  which doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words. In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  “a safe haven” in your  relationship as my primary  task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming over-whelmed or defensive.

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issue and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Sadly, sometimes couples come to counselling in order to find a way to part amicably and with the least amount of pain.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

Qualifications

Diploma and Membership Bodies

Advanced Level 4 Diploma in Integrative Counselling. I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy).  I am also an Accredited Registrant with NCS (National Counselling Society).

Further Training

I have undertaken the Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I am also a graduate of the one year Developmental Model of Couples Therapy training course under Ellyn Bader Ph.D at The Couples Institute.

Other various trainings include Attachment Theory,  Compassion Focused Therapy and Mindfulness.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

Fees & FAQ

How much will it cost?

I charge £45 per individual session and £60 for a couples session.

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate – usually day time appointments. 

How many sessions will I need?

Each session lasts for 1 hour for individuals and 1 hour 15 minutes for couples.

The number of sessions needed varies. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  Some people’s needs require a more open-ended arrangement.  This is something we can clarify and discuss together.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions and and most people accept a day and time slot  which they can keep to. There is a degree of flexibility on this  as I understand that may not always be possible when, for example, someone does shift work, although I do stress that I can’t guarantee to hold your space and time if you are unable to attend regularly.  In order to derive the full therapeutic benefit from counselling, your continuity and consistency is vital.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel 48 hours notice is required or you will be expected to pay for your missed session.

Endings

Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during the sessions.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com