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It can bring about a huge sense of relief to be able to talk to someone who can really listen and understand the world from your perspective.  We all deserve to be heard and could benefit from having the time and space devoted to just that.  My counselling room can provide you with a safe, neutral and confidential place where you can be yourself, free from judgement.

  • Do you feel a sense of hopelessness and despair?
  • Is your anxiety crippling you?
  • Are you finding it difficult to cope with a bereavement or loss?
  • Do you find it difficult to express your feelings in a calm and adult way?
  • Is your relationship emotionally draining?
  • Do you feel stuck, lost or just need some clarity?

Whatever you are struggling with, you don’t have to cope alone.  Together, we can explore the possible causes of your difficulties.  I will work with you to help you develop effective coping strategies.  In the process you will discover how to manage stressful situations in the future.

The idea of talking to a complete stranger about your problems may feel strange. Perhaps you fear not being understood or misinterpreted and that this will add to your stress?  Having been in the client chair myself, I know what it’s like to be the client.  I aim to show the same level of care and compassion I was lucky enough to receive when I sought my own personal therapy.

You don’t necessarily have to be in crisis to seek counselling.  If you are not feeling at peace with your life, or you just sense that having someone to talk to could bring about real change in your life, then now is the right time to talk to me.  

Choosing the right Counsellor for you

From personal experience, I know that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ is crucial.  In order to help you decide whether we could work together, do please feel free to give me a telephone call, text or email me so that I can answer any concerns or questions you may have. If you reach my voicemail, leave a short message or text me and I promise to return your call or text as soon as I can.

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

ABOUT

My Approach

My counselling approach is humanistic and relational.  I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and the client, since it is the relationship between us which provides the healing benefit.  Working with the ‘whole person’ and not the ‘label’ is my philosophy and this lies at the heart of my approach. 

Background:-

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a natural curiosity about human nature. My first counselling role was working for Camden City Islington Westminster Bereavement Service.  Loss comes in so many forms. To be able to offer a safe and confidential space for people to explore and give voice to their painful feelings and difficult emotions, to listen attentively and walk alongside someone as they navigate their way through the grieving process, is a life-affirming experience, and one I feel very privileged to have been a part of.

Since 2007, I have worked therapeutically with numerous clients and helped them through the various life challenges they were facing.

Having worked in both public and private sectors, has given me the knowledge and understanding to work competently with people from various backgrounds and different cultures.  My own life experience has also shaped the way in which I work.

Counselling Technique

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs and personality.

Integrative therapy is also about integrating you as a person.  It involves looking at how the different parts of you work together – how your thoughts, emotions, behaviours, as well as physical and spiritual health are working together. The aim is not to ‘change’ you, but to help you find balance within yourself.

Theory of Practice

Having a solid theory provides the framework for effective counselling.  The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship.

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential.”

Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, unravelling process –  and yet it can be profoundly life-changing, as I myself have personally witnessed.  Why not give it a try?

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

COUPLES COUNSELLING

Getting your relationship back on track

Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a  repeating cycle of blame, attack, defend, shut down.

Couples often argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, loading the dishwater, etc. The root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting and feeling unsafe with the other partner.  Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress.  As a result you may feel anxious,angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, hopeless, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners.

The main aim of couples counselling is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their underlying needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, resentment, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart.  This doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words.  In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  a safe haven in your  relationship as my primary task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming so overwhelmed or defensive.

The aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issues and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Telephone: 07940565603

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

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FEES & FAQ

How much will it cost?

£50 for individual counselling – 60 minutes

£60 for couples counselling –    75 minutes

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate – day time only.

How many sessions will I need?

The number of sessions needed varies according to your individual needs. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  You may require a more open-ended arrangement, depending on your situation. This is something we can clarify and discuss together when we meet.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions.  Most people accept a day and time slot  which they can keep to. There is a degree of flexibility on this  as I understand that may not always be possible when, for example, someone does shift work. Please note, I can’t guarantee to hold your space and time if you are unable to attend regularly, especially as I usually have a waiting list.  In order to derive the full therapeutic benefit from counselling, your continuity and consistency is vital.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel 48 hours notice is required or you will be expected to pay for your missed session.

Endings

Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during your session.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are still trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com