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Hello and Welcome,

It can bring about a huge sense of relief to be able to talk to someone who can really listen and understand the world from your perspective.

We all deserve to be heard and we could all benefit from having the time and space devoted to just that. A safe, neutral place where we know we can be ourselves, free from judgement.  The counselling hour is your time and the counselling room is your space for that time.

You may be struggling, but you don’t have to cope alone.  Gaining support, sharing and exploring with a down-to-earth, approachable and experienced counsellor may make all the difference.  Whatever has brought you to this point, together we can make sense of it all and find a way throught it.

I am a qualified, registered and professional counsellor offering face to face counselling for people (18 years old and over) and Couples in Enfield, EN2 next to Gordon Hill Station and in close proximity to Enfield Town and surrounding areas.

Although I specialise in bereavement counselling and couples counselling, my practice is by no means limited to these areas.

I also work effectively with people who are experiencing:-

  • anxiety and panic;
  • bullying;
  • childhood trauma;
  • cultural identity;
  • depression and low mood;
  • difficulty relating to others;
  • emotional impact of physical health;
  • family disputes;
  • gender or relationship identity and diversity;
  • guilt;
  • lack of direction;
  • lack of feelings;
  • loneliness;
  • loss (in its different forms);
  • low energy;
  • low self-esteem;
  • obsessive compulsive behaviour;
  • relationship challenges and breakdown;
  • self-loathing;
  • sense of something not being right;
  • sex and intimacy;
  • shame;
  • social anxiety;
  • stress and burnout;
  • workplace conflict.

My counselling approach is humanistic and relational.  This means I respect and value each person as the unique individual they are as well as acknowledging that, as relational human beings, we are wired for connection to others.  Balancing individuality with togetherness can be difficult to achieve in relationships. 

I understand only too well that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ for you can be difficult.  If you wish to find out whether we could work together or would like to know more, then do please get in touch.  My contact details are below.

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

Background, Theory, Experience

Background:-

Before working as a counsellor I worked in the Legal field.  The traits of perfectionism and pessimism are widespread among lawyers and many who work in this field are prone to anxiety, stress and burnout, often through work overload. In a male-dominant profession, there can be an internalised sense of fear of failure and shame in asking for help or showing vulnerability.  Fortunately, there are a growing number of men, as well as women, who recognise that it takes courage and strength to be able to ask for and receive support.

Experiencing the pain of loss was the prime motivating factor that challenged me to question life and understand myself better. Not surprisingly perhaps, I started my counselling journey by becoming a voluntary counsellor for a bereavement charity in 2007.  Loss comes in many forms and all of us experience different kinds of  losses in our lives and grieve for them in our own way. It is understandable and normal to grieve.  However, if it’s complicated or you find yourself struggling to cope,  then bereavement counselling can make the difference in helping you come to terms with your loss, no matter what the circumstances are.

Counselling Style

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your personality and individual needs.

Theory of Practice

The framework for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential. If I want to be that self, that I truly am, then I have to be it on all five of these levels”

Whilst having a solid theory provides the framework for good counselling, it is the relationship which offers the healing benefit IF the right conditions are present. and where there is a felt sense of attunement between the client and counsellor.  It is therefore crucial that you find a counsellor you can establish a good rapport with.  In order to facilitate the counselling process, my aim is to offer you the right conditions by being accepting non-judgemental, compassionate and calm.

Experience

I qualified as an integrative counsellor in 2008. My professional training is accredited by the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)  and endorsed by the Professional Standards Authority.

Most of my self-awareness, skills, knowledge and personal experience is what I learned from the univesity of life.

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Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, un-ravelling process and yet it can be life-changing.  Why not give it a try?

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

Couples Counselling

Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a cycle of blame, criticism and distancing. 

When couples argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, etc, the root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting or not feeling safe and secure with the other partner. Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress, pain and sadness. You may also become anxious, angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative interaction cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners which ends up causing a lot of pain, injury and despair.

The main aim of couples counselling with me is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart,  which doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words. In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  “a safe haven” in your  relationship as my primary  task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming over-whelmed or defensive.

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issue and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Sadly, sometimes couples come to counselling in order to find a way to part amicably and with the least amount of pain.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

Qualifications

I hold an Advanced Level 4 Diploma in Integrative Counselling. I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy) and an Accredited Registrant with NCS (National Counselling Society).

I have also undertaken the Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and I am a Graduate of the one year Developmental Model of Couples Therapy training course under Ellyn Bader Ph.D at The Couples Institute.

Other various trainings include Attachment Theory,  Compassion Focused Therapy and Mindfulness.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

 

 

Fees & FAQ

How much will it cost?

I charge £45 per individual session and £60 for a couples session.

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate –  usually day time appointments.  Student counsellors in training are welcome.

How many sessions will I need?

Each session lasts for 1 hour for individuals and 1 hour 15 minutes for couples.

The number of sessions needed varies. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  Some people prefer an open-ended arrangement. We can discuss this together.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions and and most people accept a day and time slot  which they can stick to. There is a degree of flexibility on this  as I understand that may not always be possible when, for example, someone does shift work, although I do stress that I can’t guarantee to hold your space and time if you are unable to attend regularly.  Your continuity and consistency to the counselling process is important in order to derive the benefit from it.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel 48 hours notice is required or you will be expected to pay for the missed session.

Endings

Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during the sessions.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com