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Hello and Welcome,

It can bring about a huge sense of relief to be able to talk to someone who can really listen and understand the world from your perspective.

We all deserve to be heard and we could all benefit from having the time and space devoted to just that. A safe, neutral place where we know we can be ourselves, free from judgement.  The counselling hour is your time and the counselling room is your space  for that time.

I am a qualified, registered and experienced counsellor offering face to face counselling for people (18 years old and over) and couples in Enfield, EN2 next to Gordon Hill Station and in close proximity to Enfield Town, Potters Bar and surrounding areas.

You may be struggling, but you don’t have to cope alone.  The counselling relationship is like no other and serves as a bridge for people who wish to find balance in their lives.

I specialise in  anxiety, bereavement, and couples counselling, although my practice is by no means limited to these areas.  I also help people to discover their direction in life and what is holding them back from living the life that they want, including their relationships and their careers.

My counselling approach is humanistic and relational.  This means I respect and value each person as the unique individual they are as well as acknowledging that, as relational human beings, we are wired for connection to others. I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and the client, as it is the relationship between us which offers the healing benefit. I’m a firm believer in working with the whole ‘person’ and not the ‘label’ and this lays the foundation for the way in which I work.

From personal experience, I know that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ for you is crucial but can be tricky.  In order to help you decide whether we could work together, do please feel free to give me a telephone call, text or email me so that I can answer any concerns or questions you may have. If you reach my voicemail, leave a short message or text me and I promise to return your call or text as soon as possible.  My contact details are below.

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

Background, Theory, Experience

Background:-

Before working as a counsellor I worked in the Legal profession.  The traits of perfectionism and pessimism are widespread amongst lawyers and many who work in this field are prone to anxiety and stress.  In a male-dominant profession, there can be an internalised sense of fear and shame in acknowledging you need support.  Fortunately,  a growing number of men, as well as women, are recognising that it’s perfectly normal to seek professional help.  Having first hand knowledge of the corporate environment, I work effectively with people suffering from workplace stress and emotional burnout.

Experiencing a significant loss was the motivating factor that challenged me to question life and understand myself better. Not surprisingly, I started my counselling journey by becoming a voluntary counsellor for a bereavement charity in 2007. I  understand that coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges.

Counselling Style

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs.

Theory of Practice

Having a sound theory provides the framework for effective counselling. The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship.

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential. If I want to be that self, that I truly am, then I have to be it on all five of these levels”

Experience

I qualified as an integrative counsellor in 2008. My professional training is accredited by the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy)  and endorsed by the Professional Standards Authority.

Most of my self-awareness, skills and knowledge is based on personal experience and what I learned from the univesity of life.

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Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, un-ravelling process and yet it can be life-changing.  Why not give it a try?

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

Couples Counselling

Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a cycle of blame, criticism and distancing. 

When couples argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, etc, the root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting or not feeling safe and secure with the other partner. Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress, pain and sadness. You may also become anxious, angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners which ends up causing a lot of pain, injury and despair.

The main aim of couples counselling with me is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart,  which doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words. In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  “a safe haven” in your  relationship as my primary  task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming over-whelmed or defensive.

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issue and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Sadly, sometimes couples come to counselling in order to find a way to part amicably and with the least amount of pain.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

Qualifications

I hold an Advanced Level 4 Diploma in Integrative Counselling. I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy) and an Accredited Registrant with NCS (National Counselling Society).

I have also undertaken the Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and I am a Graduate of the one year Developmental Model of Couples Therapy training course under Ellyn Bader Ph.D at The Couples Institute.

Other various trainings include Attachment Theory,  Compassion Focused Therapy and Mindfulness.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

 

 

Fees & FAQ

How much will it cost?

I charge £45 per individual session and £60 for a couples session.

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate – usually day time appointments. 

How many sessions will I need?

Each session lasts for 1 hour for individuals and 1 hour 15 minutes for couples.

The number of sessions needed varies. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  Some people’s needs require a more open-ended arrangement.  This is something we can clarify and discuss together.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions and and most people accept a day and time slot  which they can keep to. There is a degree of flexibility on this  as I understand that may not always be possible when, for example, someone does shift work, although I do stress that I can’t guarantee to hold your space and time if you are unable to attend regularly.  In order to derive the full therapeutic benefit from counselling, your continuity and consistency is vital.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel 48 hours notice is required or you will be expected to pay for your missed session.

Endings

Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during the sessions.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com