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Welcome,

I offer both individual and couples counselling in Enfield, EN2 next to Gordon Hill Station and in close proximity to Enfield Town, Potters Bar, Cuffley and surrounding areas. I also offer counselling via Skype.

It can bring about a huge sense of relief to be able to talk to someone who can really listen and understand the world from your perspective.

You deserve to be heard.  We could all benefit from having a safe and neutral place where we know we can be ourselves, free from judgement. The counselling hour is your time and the counselling room provides you with the space for that time.

I  help people who want to:-

  • Feel more at ease with themselves
  • Make better choices
  • Stop repeating destructive or obsessive behaviour
  • Express their feelings and emotions in a healthy and less reactive way
  • Give voice to their pain, anger, guilt, shame, heartache, etc.
  • Manage their anxiety, stress, panic attacks
  • Understand themselves better
  • Communicate effectively
  • Relate to one another without hurting each other
  • Find purpose or meaning in life

If you are not feeling at peace with your life, or you just sense that having someone to talk to could affect real change in your life, then now is the right time to talk to me.

My Approach

My counselling approach is humanistic and relational.  I respect and value each person as the unique individual they are.  I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and my clients, since I believe it is the relationship between us which provides the most healing benefit.  Working with the ‘whole person’ and not the ‘label’ is my philosophy and this lies at the heart of my approach. 

Choosing the right Counsellor for you

From personal experience, I know that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ is crucial.  In order to help you decide whether we could work together, do please feel free to give me a telephone call, text or email me so that I can answer any concerns or questions you may have. If you reach my voicemail, leave a short message or text me.  I promise to return your call or text as soon as I can.  My contact details are below.

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

Background, Counselling Style & Theory

Background:-

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a natural curiosity about human nature. My first counselling role was working for Camden City Islington Westminster Bereavement Service in 2007. To be able to offer a safe and confidential space for people to explore and express their painful feelings and difficult emotions, to listen and understand, to walk alongside someone as they navigate their way through the grieving process, is a life-affirming experience, and one I shall be forever grateful for.

Having worked in both public and private sectors, has given me knowledge and understanding in working with people from various backgrounds and different cultures.  Similarly,  my own life experience has shaped the way in which I work and has given me the self-awareness to work competently with a diverse range of clients.

Counselling Style

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills, technniques and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs.

Theory of Practice

Having a sound theory provides the framework for effective counselling.  The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship.

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential.”

Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, unravelling process –  and yet it can be profoundly life-changing, as I myself have personally witnessed.  Why not give it a try?

Telephone:

07940565603

Email:

maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

 

Couples Counselling

Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a cycle of blame, criticism and distancing. 

When couples argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, loading the dishwater, etc, the root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting or not feeling safe and secure with the other partner. Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress, pain and sadness. You may also become anxious, angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners which ends up causing a lot of pain, injury and despair.

The main aim of couples counselling with me is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart,  which doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words. In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  “a safe haven” in your  relationship as my primary  task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming over-whelmed or defensive.

The overall aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issue and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Sadly, sometimes couples come to counselling in order to find a way to part amicably and with the least amount of pain.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

Qualifications

Diploma and Membership Bodies

Advanced Level 4 Diploma in Integrative Counselling. I am a registered member of the BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy).  I am also an Accredited Registrant with NCS (National Counselling Society).

Further Training

I have undertaken the Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I am also a graduate of the one year Developmental Model of Couples Therapy training course under Ellyn Bader Ph.D at The Couples Institute.

Other various trainings include Attachment Theory,  Compassion Focused Therapy and Mindfulness.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com

 

Fees & FAQ

How much will it cost?

I charge £50 per individual session and £60 for a couples session.

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate – day time only.

How many sessions will I need?

Each session lasts for 1 hour for individuals and 1 hour 15 minutes for couples.

The number of sessions needed varies according to your individual needs. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  You may require a more open-ended arrangement, depending on your situation. This is something we can clarify and discuss together when we meet.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions.  Most people accept a day and time slot  which they can keep to. There is a degree of flexibility on this  as I understand that may not always be possible when, for example, someone does shift work. Please note, I can’t guarantee to hold your space and time if you are unable to attend regularly, especially as I usually have a waiting list.  In order to derive the full therapeutic benefit from counselling, your continuity and consistency is vital.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel 48 hours notice is required or you will be expected to pay for your missed session.

Endings

Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during your session.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are still trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com