Before working as a counsellor I worked in the Legal field. The traits of perfectionism and pessimism are widespread among lawyers and many who work in this field are prone to anxiety, stress and burnout, often through work overload. In a male-dominant profession, there can be an internalised sense of fear of failure and shame in asking for help or showing vulnerability. Fortunately, there are a growing number of men, as well as women, who recognise that it takes courage and strength to be able to ask for and receive support.
Experiencing the pain of loss was the prime motivating factor that challenged me to question life and understand myself better. Not surprisingly perhaps, I started my counselling journey by becoming a voluntary counsellor for a bereavement charity in 2007. Loss comes in many forms and all of us experience different kinds of losses in our lives and grieve for them in our own way. It is understandable and normal to grieve. However, if it’s complicated or you find yourself struggling to cope, then bereavement counselling can make the difference in helping you come to terms with your loss, no matter what the circumstances are.
I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your personality and individual needs.
Theory of Practice
The framework for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model. She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-
- The Working Alliance Relationship
- The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
- The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
- The Person-to-Person Relationship
- The Transpersonal Relationship
As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-
“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential. If I want to be that self, that I truly am, then I have to be it on all five of these levels”
Whilst having a solid theory provides the framework for good counselling, it is the relationship which offers the healing benefit IF the right conditions are present. and where there is a felt sense of attunement between the client and counsellor. It is therefore crucial that you find a counsellor you can establish a good rapport with. In order to facilitate the counselling process, my aim is to offer you the right conditions by being accepting non-judgemental, compassionate and calm.
I qualified as an integrative counsellor in 2008. My professional training is accredited by the BACP (British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy) and endorsed by the Professional Standards Authority.
Most of my self-awareness, skills, knowledge and personal experience is what I learned from the univesity of life.
Counselling is not an experience to be feared. It is a gentle, un-ravelling process and yet it can be life-changing. Why not give it a try?