Anyone can talk. Not everyone can listen. We all yearn to be heard beyond simply the words that we are speaking.  We want to know that the other person “gets us”. This type of hearing can only come about when we feel safe, close and connected. 

As  a relationship counsellor, one of my aims is to create an  environment of trust and safety, enabling couples to get to the heart of their relationship dynamics. Real change can only come from the heart.

Although my specialism is in helping couples re-connect, I am a trained and experienced bereavement counsellor.   In the last 12 years, I have seen and supported people who are finding it difficult to cope with anxiety, anger, betrayal, depression, low self-esteem, emotional or physical abuse, loneliness, relationship, separation, trust, etc. 

  • Do you feel a sense of hopelessness and despair?
  • Is your anxiety crippling you?
  • Are you finding it difficult to cope with a bereavement or loss?
  • Is your relationship emotionally draining?
  • Do you feel stuck, lost or just need some clarity?

Don’t struggle alone. Together, we will explore and get to the root of what is troubling you. In the process, you can gain a deeper understanding of yourself and see it from another perspective.  You may also begin to discover other ways of seeing or relating to your situation which can bring about a sense of relief and help you move forwards.

What can you expect?

During the course of each session, you are my priority and you can expect to be met with acceptance, kindness and respect.  At your own pace, we will address the core issues underlying your mindset in order to get more clarity on your current situation.  

How can you benefit from counselling with me?

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Don’t wait until you have reached crisis point to seek counselling.  If you are not feeling at peace with your life, or you just sense that having someone to talk to could bring about real change, then now is the right time to talk to me.

Choosing the right Counsellor for you

From personal experience, I know that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ is crucial to the healing benefit of the work. In order to help you decide whether we could work together, do please feel free to give me a call, text or email me so that I can answer any concerns or questions you may have. If you reach my voicemail, leave a short message or text me and I promise to return your call as soon as I can and within 24 hours.






My Approach

I would describe my approach to counselling as humanistic and relational.   I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and my clients, since I believe the primary healing tool is the ‘relationship’  I strive to have a presence worth inspiring with others.  Working with the ‘whole person’ and not the ‘label’ is my philosophy and this is at the heart of my approach.


For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a natural curiosity about human nature. My first counselling role was working voluntarily for Camden City Islington Westminster Bereavement Service.  Loss comes in so many forms. To be able to offer a safe and confidential space for people to explore and give voice to their painful feelings and heartache, to listen attentively and walk alongside someone as they navigate their way through the trauma of grief, is a life-affirming experience, and one I feel very privileged to have been a part of.

Having worked in both public and private sectors, has given me the knowledge and understanding to work competently with people from various backgrounds, different cultures and identities, although I am always open to learning.

Counselling Technique

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs and personality.

Integrative therapy is also about integrating you as a person.  It involves looking at how the different parts of you work together – how your thoughts, emotions, behaviours, as well as physical and spiritual health are working together. The aim is not to ‘change’ you, but to help you find balance within yourself.

Theory of Practice

Having a solid theory provides the framework for effective counselling.  The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship.

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential.”

Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, unravelling process, although it can feel quite challenging at times. It can also be profoundly life-changing, as I myself have personally witnessed. Why not at least give it a try? 






Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a repeating cycle of blame, attack, defend, shut down.

Couples often argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, loading the dishwater, etc. The root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting and feeling unsafe with the other partner.  Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress.  As a result you may feel anxious,angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, hopeless, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners.

The main aim of couples counselling is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their underlying needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, resentment, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart.  This doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words.  In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  safety and trust in your  relationship as my primary task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming so overwhelmed by your feelings and defensive.

The aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issues and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Telephone: 07940565603




How much will it cost?

£50 per session – individual counselling (50 mins)

£70 per session – couples counselling   (70 mins) 

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate –  please enquire to see if you qualify.

How many sessions will I need?

The number of sessions needed varies according to your individual needs. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  You may require a more open-ended arrangement, depending on your situation. This is something we can clarify and discuss together when we meet.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions.  Most people accept a day and time slot  which is attainable for both of us.  Please note that I cannot guarantee to hold your space if you are unable to attend regularly, especially as this can prevent other people who may be waiting for a regular weekly space from attending.  I am committed to showing up consistently, being fully present with you and supporting you through the counselling process to the best of my ability. In order for you to reap the benefit of counselling, I require the same commitment from you.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel, I will require at least 48 hours notice or you will be charged in full for the missed session. Full details of my cancellation policy is set out in my Terms and Conditions, a copy of which you will be given to read and sign at the initial session.


Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during your session.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are still trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead60@gmail.com