It can bring about a huge sense of relief to be able to talk to someone who can really listen and understand the world from your perspective.  We all deserve to be heard and could benefit from having the time and space devoted to just that.  My counselling room can provide you with a safe, neutral and confidential place where you can be yourself, free from judgement.

  • Do you feel a sense of hopelessness and despair?
  • Is your anxiety crippling you?
  • Are you finding it difficult to cope with a bereavement or loss?
  • Do you find it difficult to express your feelings in a calm and adult way?
  • Is your relationship emotionally draining?
  • Do you feel stuck, lost or just need some clarity?

Whatever you are struggling with, you don’t have to cope alone.  Together, we can explore and make sense of your situation in order to bring about a clearer understanding and gain a new perspective.  In the process you can discover effective coping strategies.  You will then be better equipped to manage difficult feelings and stressful situations in the future.

I offer individual and couples counselling with many years of experience working with clients on a wide range of issues.  I specialise in loss and relationships, although clients come in with many issues including bereavement, anxiety, trauma, depression and low mood, loneliness, lack of fulfillment, anger and conflict, intimacy, crisis, shame, bullying, (to name a few).

You don’t necessarily have to be in crisis to seek counselling.  If you are not feeling at peace with your life, or you just sense that having someone to talk to could bring about real change in your life, then now is the right time to talk to me.  

Choosing the right Counsellor for you

From personal experience, I know that choosing a counsellor who is the right ‘fit’ is crucial to the healing benefit of the work. In order to help you decide whether we could work together, do please feel free to give me a telephone call, text or email me so that I can answer any concerns or questions you may have. If you reach my voicemail, leave a short message or text me and I promise to return your call or text as soon as I can.






My Approach

My counselling approach is humanistic and relational.   I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and my clients, since I believe the primary healing tool is the ‘relationship’ and I work on keeping the relationship with myself “well tuned” by continued professional development.  I strive to have a presence worth inspiring with others.  Working with the ‘whole person’ and not the ‘label’ is my philosophy and this lies at the heart of my approach. 


For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a natural curiosity about human nature. My first counselling role was working for Camden City Islington Westminster Bereavement Service.  Loss comes in so many forms. To be able to offer a safe and confidential space for people to explore and give voice to their painful feelings and difficult emotions, to listen attentively and walk alongside someone as they navigate their way through the grieving process, is a life-affirming experience, and one I feel very privileged to have been a part of.

Having worked in both public and private sectors, has given me the knowledge and understanding to work competently with people from various backgrounds, different cultures and identities.  Being multicultual myself and having lived a worldly life has also shaped the way in which I work.

Counselling Technique

I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs and personality.

Integrative therapy is also about integrating you as a person.  It involves looking at how the different parts of you work together – how your thoughts, emotions, behaviours, as well as physical and spiritual health are working together. The aim is not to ‘change’ you, but to help you find balance within yourself.

Theory of Practice

Having a solid theory provides the framework for effective counselling.  The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model.  She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-

  1. The Working Alliance Relationship
  2. The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
  3. The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
  4. The Person-to-Person Relationship
  5. The Transpersonal Relationship.

As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-

“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential.”

Counselling  is not an experience to be feared.  It is a gentle, unravelling process –  and yet it can be profoundly life-changing, as I myself have personally witnessed.  Why not give it a try?






Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a repeating cycle of blame, attack, defeat.

Couples often argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, loading the dishwater, etc. The root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting and feeling unsafe with the other partner.  Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress.  As a result you may feel anxious,angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, hopeless, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative cycles we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners.

The main aim of couples counselling is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgmental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their underlying needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, resentment, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart.  This doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense, but listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words.  In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of  safety and trust in your  relationship as my primary task and the focus will be on your primary needs –  which is often to  feel  close, secure and responded to.

Once safety and connection have been re-established,  you  will be  better  able to manage  conflict  and  the painful or difficult feelings that will inevitably arise from time to time in a close relationship.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without becoming so overwhelmed by your feelings and defensive.

The aim of couples counselling is to help you to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issues and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect  on your past in order to understand how it may be affecting you currently.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn  what your emotional “triggers” are and de-escalate arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect  emotionally and physically.

Telephone: 07940565603



Learn to Diffuse and Regulate your Emotions – Maria Mead

It can seem like we are battling and swimming against strong emotional currents when we are in conflict with our partner. These aren’t the day-to-day flashes of anger or hurt. I am talking about the giant waves of bad feelings that completely flatten you and take any rational thought with them. This is how it usually …


How much will it cost?

£50 per session – individual counselling (60 mins)

£65 per session – couples counselling (70 mins)

  • I also offer a limited amount of counselling sessions at a concessionary rate – day time only.

How many sessions will I need?

The number of sessions needed varies according to your individual needs. Some people are goal orientated about what they want from counselling and find 6 – 12 sessions is sufficient.  You may require a more open-ended arrangement, depending on your situation. This is something we can clarify and discuss together when we meet.

How often should I come for counselling?

I offer weekly sessions.  Most people accept a day and time slot  which is attainable for both of us. This is not “set in stone” as I understand that may not always be possible when, for example, someone does shift work.  However, please note that I cannot hold your space and time if you are unable to attend regularly, especially as this can prevent other people who may be waiting for a regular weekly space from attending.  In order for you to get the full therapeutic benefit from counselling, your continuity and consistency is vital.

What if I can’t come for a session?

If you need to cancel 48 hours notice is required or you will be expected to pay for your missed session in full. Full details of my cancellation policy is set out in my Terms and Conditions, a copy of which you will be given to read and sign at the initial session, by way of agreement.


Endings in counselling are an inevitable part of therapy.  Your decision to terminate counselling would ideally be discussed during your session.  I also have the right to terminate the therapy, if necessary, but not without discussing this with you fully first.

Further information

Please do not hesitate to contact me if you have any queries or concerns or if you are still trying to decide whether counselling is right for you.

Telephone: 07940565603  maria.mead1@btinternet.com