COUPLES COUNSELLING

Relationship dynamics can feel exhausting, especially if you are stuck in a repeating pattern of destructive behaviour.

Couples often argue about issues such as jealousy, money, sex, children, loading the dishwater, etc. The root of these arguments often stems from one partner not feeling connected, not trusting and feeling unsafe with the other partner.  Because the person you are attached to is unavailable or not responding to your needs to feel close or supported it can cause you emotional distress.  As a result you may feel anxious,angry, fearful, numb, withdrawn, hopeless, lost, etc.

Due to our relationship histories and the negative patterns we get into with our partners, many of us have difficulties with trust and in expressing emotions to those who mean the most to us.  As a result of this we develop habit-forming ways of reacting to our partners.

The main aim of couples counselling is to work on exploring those patterns and work on changing the negative interactions between you in a neutral, safe, non-judgemental  and confidential environment.

Before long, couples usually begin to recognise and eventually express their underlying needs for love, support, protection and comfort that are often hidden or disguised by angry exchanges of words, resentment, sulking, stonewalling, etc.  Partners can then begin to listen with their heart.  This doesn’t mean listening for the meaning of a partner’s words in the literal sense;  it means, listening for the feelings that lie beneath the words.  In return, the other partner is better able to respond from their heart in kind.

I view the building of safety and trust in your relationship as crucial in order to be able to re-connect with one another.

Once safety and trust are restored, it will then become easier to manage conflict and the difficult feelings and emotions that generally arise during disputes.  You will also be able to send clearer messages and hear your partner’s perspective without your own emotions getting in the way.

Learn to:-

  • Explore  your presenting issues and how external factors such as gender, family values, attachments, lifestyle, etc. may affect your relationship.
  • Reflect on your past in order to understand its influence on you now.
  • Understandacknowledge and change your part in the ‘dance’ between you.
  • Learn how to respond to difficult emotions in order to diffuse arguments quicker.
  • Communicate more effectively.
  • Re-connect emotionally, physically and spiritually
  • Separate (if necessary) with respect and dignity.

Telephone: 07940565603

maria.mead60@gmail.com

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