My counselling approach is humanistic and relational. I place great emphasis on the relationship between myself and my clients, since I believe the primary healing tool is the ‘relationship’ and I work on keeping the relationship with myself “well tuned” by continued professional development. I strive to have a presence worth inspiring with others. Working with the ‘whole person’ and not the ‘label’ is my philosophy and this lies at the heart of my approach.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a natural curiosity about human nature. My first counselling role was working for Camden City Islington Westminster Bereavement Service. Loss comes in so many forms. To be able to offer a safe and confidential space for people to explore and give voice to their painful feelings and difficult emotions, to listen attentively and walk alongside someone as they navigate their way through the grieving process, is a life-affirming experience, and one I feel very privileged to have been a part of.
Having worked in both public and private sectors, has given me the knowledge and understanding to work competently with people from various backgrounds, different cultures and identities. Being multicultual myself and having lived a worldly life has also shaped the way in which I work.
I offer an integrative style of therapy; which basically means I will combine and use principles, skills and knowledge from several specific therapy approaches, tailored to support your individual needs and personality.
Integrative therapy is also about integrating you as a person. It involves looking at how the different parts of you work together – how your thoughts, emotions, behaviours, as well as physical and spiritual health are working together. The aim is not to ‘change’ you, but to help you find balance within yourself.
Theory of Practice
Having a solid theory provides the framework for effective counselling. The theory for my professional integrative counselling training was Petruska Clarkson’s 5 Stranded Relationship Model. She suggests there are 5 relationship stages that clients go through:-
- The Working Alliance Relationship
- The Transferential/Counter-Transferential Relationship
- The Reparative/Developmentally-needed Relationship
- The Person-to-Person Relationship
- The Transpersonal Relationship.
As John Rowan says in his book (The Reality Game: Routledge 1998):-
“If we say that human beings exist on at least five levels – body, feelings, intellect, soul and spirit – then we have to do justice to all five of these levels in all of our efforts at realising human potential.”
Counselling is not an experience to be feared. It is a gentle, unravelling process – and yet it can be profoundly life-changing, as I myself have personally witnessed. Why not give it a try?